Happy Mother’s Day!
Mothers’ day is an opportunity for us to express our appreciation for our mothers every year. We owe our mothers a lot, and we should do our best to make mothers day special for our moms. How do we do that? If you’re anything like me, your Mothers’ Day ideas begin and end with “gift card”. In this article we’re going to cover some principles to keep in mind that will help you decide what’s best for your mom for Mothers’ Day. To make this day special for your mom, focus on these three things: her, you, and both of you. I know that sounds obvious, but it’s not always.
Focus on Her
When you’re trying to decide what to do for your Mom (or your wife), focus on her. What does she enjoy doing? What does she wish she could do more of? What matters most to her? What is something she has to do that doesn’t want to do? You can also ask yourself some other questions such as: what does she mean to you? What’s your fondest memory of her? What are you most grateful to her for? If you decide to write a letter or a card, make sure to include some heartfelt feelings. She’ll remember these and cherish them. Just don’t show it to any of your buddies. If you are able to, try to visit her and do something she would want to do. More often than you might think, this just means a nice quiet dinner and time to talk. Whatever it is, it will mean a lot to her if you spend time doing what she wants.
Focus on You
Rather, focus on giving of yourself to make your gift special. The most valuable gift you can give your mother or wife is time. If you don’t get to spend much time together otherwise, perhaps the best thing you can do is to just sacrifice your time on or around Mothers’ Day to be with her and do what she wants to do (just like was mentioned above). You can also spend time on a project for her. A hand-made jewelry box or something else is always more meaningful than a store-bought one, even if the store-bought one was really expensive and higher quality than the hand-made one. The most important thing to keep in mind here is that the gift she wants most is you. She doesn’t want your money or a gift-card or something like that, she wants you. The single best way to make Mothers’ Day special for your mother or wife is to give of yourself.
Focus on what you both share
My mother does not play hockey. I have never played hockey on a team before. Therefore it would probably be odd for me to get my mother an old beat-up hockey puck for Mothers’ Day. However, if I had played hockey growing up and my mother had been very supportive of me and we had a lot of good memories of those times, giving her an old beat-up hockey puck I still had from practicing could be an extremely touching gift, especially if it was paired with a heartfelt note. If you remember something special about your mother, or have fond memories of a specific event or time in your life where your mother made a powerful impact on you, then use Mothers’ Day as a chance to let her know how much it affected you, whether through a note or a gift.
No one knows better than you
These are good principles to keep in mind when you’re trying to make Mothers’ Day special for your mother or wife, but you should remember that no one knows better what to get her than you do. Take what you know of her and do your best to come up with a good gift, and it will turn out well. You can also consider reaching out to siblings or other family to see what their plans are and see if it’s appropriate to go in together on something or just to get a gift that complements the gift that someone else is already giving her.